Not-So-Bad Fast Food Options

Some folks say that fast food has no place in a healthy diet. And if you're looking for the ultimate in healthy eating, then prepping your meals in advance with lean proteins and veggies is the way to go. But there are just times when life throws you a curve ball, and picking up a quick meal of drive-thru or take-out is the best option. Believe it or not, there are ways to do that and get a meal that's not terrible for your fat loss goals.

Grilled Chicken Is Your Friend

Most drive-thru places have some kind of grilled chicken sandwich that's a much healthier option than a hamburger with a beef patty. For bonus points, get your sandwich without mayo, sauce, or cheese. I do shed a tear when I ask them to leave off the mayo, but I honestly don't taste the cheese when it's there, so that's not a problem for me. Oh, and make sure you get grilled chicken, not "crispy", which is fried.

An Alternative for Fries and Chips

As I said in a previous post, fries and chips aren't actually a requirement to eat with your meal. They come with lots of calories, but not a lot of nutrition. But what if you're really hungry? You don't have to finish your meal still famished. Remember that grilled chicken sandwich you're getting? Ask for an extra portion of chicken on it. Almost all the drive-thru places I've been to will do that, though it's usually about a dollar more expensive than getting the fries. But you're worth the extra expense, right?

Does a sandwich with two chicken breasts on it seem overwhelming? Just try it once. If it turns out to be too much food in one meal, maybe just skipping the fries and eating a regular grilled chicken sandwich is the way to go.

Don't Drink Your Calories

Sugar soda is delicious, but evil. Hopefully you've already come to terms with other beverage options, but if not, it's time. Even fruit juice is packed with sugar, so I'm afraid that's out, too. Unsweetened iced tea, diet soda, coffee, hot tea, or just bottled water. Low fat and fat-free milk can also make good alternatives, though they do have calories.

What's that? Did I hear you gasping and swooning when you read "diet soda"? Are you shocked to hear me recommending a sure-fire carcinogen? Relax. There's zero actual evidence that artificial sweeteners cause cancer. Seriously, none. Here's what the American Cancer Society and Cancer Research UK have to say on the subject.

So diet soda is fine, in reasonable amounts. It's also fine to use artificial sweeteners in your tea or coffee. Just be aware that if you add milk or creamer, they do have calories. Not a ton, but make sure you log those calories.

My Favorite Quick Meal

I love Subway. If you have a Subway restaurant in your area, you can find a variety of great options there. You just have to order carefully. Here is a fantastic nutrition calculator for Subway sandwiches. I have found that if you ask for them to put veggies like tomatoes, onions, and bell pepper on the sandwich before they toast it, you get a moist, flavorful meal that is delicious without high-calorie sauces.

So when life gets hectic or you just can't take any more of your own cooking, don't starve. Just order carefully!

Best wishes,

The Friendly Lifter

Stubborn Calves

 Many people have so much difficulty getting their calf muscles to grow that they conclude that their genetics just make it impossible. Before I continue, let me be clear. Some people's genes do make it easier for them to grow their calves, while others do have to work a little harder.

BUT! Many folks who think their genetics mean they'll be cursed with bean pole calves forever, just don't realize that calf muscles need to be trained differently than most other muscles.  Let me share some suggestions. 

What's So Different About Calves?

Unlike almost all of the rest of your muscles, each calf muscle lifts your entire body weight hundreds or thousands of times a day.  So they're just not going to be impressed with 3 sets of 8 to 10 reps once a week, even with a lot of weight. You're going to need much more volume. Try one or more of the suggestions below. The more you feel your calves are lagging behind, the more of these you should do:

1. For each set, try doing sets of 15 - 20 reps. You'll probably need to use less weight than you're used to, but you'll still be doing more total volume, so swallow your pride.
2. Do 4 or 5 sets. Yes, that takes more precious time, but you can compensate for that if you...
3. Limit your rest to 30 seconds between sets. Yes, it sucks, but it makes the exercise more effective.
4. Exercise them 3 to 5 days per week.  Yes, really! They can take more frequency than just about any other muscle. Remember, you're already working them every day, just by living your life and walking around.

No Machine? No Problem. 

You can do calf raises at home, or on your morning walk, or at the gym (even if the machine is busy). You'll need a stair step, curb, or something similar, as long as there's something next to it you can hold on to for balance, like a handrail or post or something. Since a video's worth a million words, watch this. I'll spare you the torture of watching me do 20 reps.

Here you saw two variations: with both legs at the same time, and working each side separately. Notice that my heels are lower than my toes at the bottom of each rep. Also, you can't see it in the video (sorry), but I'm holding on to one of the uprights for balance.

Be sure to pause for half a second at the top and bottom of each rep. The most common mistake I see people doing on any calf excercise is "bouncing" the weight or their body up and down. You'll move more weight that way, but it's much less effective. And might get you an injury.

Is this kind of calf raise better than seated calf raises with a barbell, or on a machine? It might be, though if you can, I recommend alternating seated and standing calf raises. They do work your calves slightly differently. If not, these will definitely get the job done.

How to Vary the Difficulty 

Here are a bunch of ways to do this exercise,  from easier to harder.

• Do it with both sides at the same time, just like in the video.
• For more weight, hold a dumbbell in your free hand.
• Do only one side at a time with just your body weight.
• One side at a time with a dumbbell.
• To really torture yourself with a nasty pump, but also make the exercise super duper effective, stretch the muscle(s) by holding the bottom-of-the-rep position for up to 30 seconds before the first rep of each set.

Okay! Give 'em a try and show your genes who's boss!

The Friendly Lifter

Sample Weight Training Program

I'm ready to try weight training!

...What do I do?

I hear that from lots of folks, and it's a totally reasonable question. Often, though, you either get mysterious, not-useful-for-beginners answers, or you get so inundated with information that it's downright paralyzing.

Have I Got a Deal For You!

With this post, I'm going to try to give you a solid starting point. And I'm not going to charge you a penny! But...there's still a cost. I'm gonna make you read. And you might have to do a little bit of internet research. First, the disclaimers: 

• I'm not a professional trainer. I'm just a guy with experience who reads a lot. 
• If I list an exercise you're not familiar with, Google it with the word "form" added. For example, "face pulls form".
• If I use a term you don't understand, take a peek in my mini weight training dictionary.
• If you're trying an exercise for the first time, practice the form with a very light weight (an empty bar or very light dumbbells or select the lightest weight on your machine)
• Your first few workouts will be for figuring out how much weight to use. For more details on how to do that, read this post.

I'm going to suggest a 3-day split. That means you will be doing a cycle of three different workouts, each one on a different day. You don't have to always do "Push Day" on a Monday, just make sure that any day you work out, you do the next workout in the cycle. For example:

MONDAY - Push day

TUESDAY - Pull day

WEDNESDAY - rest (no workout)

THURSDAY - Legs day

FRIDAY - rest

SATURDAY - Push day

SUNDAY - rest

NEXT MONDAY - Pull day

NEXT TUESDAY - Legs day

...and so on...

Here's the Program

Each exercise, I will also specify which muscle group is being trained. That's important, because if you want to try a different exercise, you should find one that works the same muscle group. For each exercise, do 3 sets of 8 to 10 reps and rest about a minute between sets. To get more detail on what that means, please check out this post.

DAY 1, "Push Day" for shoulders (delts), chest (pecs), and triceps

• Bench press OR dumbbell chest press (chest)
• Incline butterfy OR cable fly (chest)
• Decline press OR dips OR assisted dips (chest/triceps)
• cable press downs OR close-grip bench press (triceps)
• Military press OR overhead dumbbell press (shoulders)
• Dumbbell OR cable side lateral raise (shoulders)

DAY 2, "Pull Day" for lower back, upper back (lats, rear delts, and traps), and biceps

• deadlift OR sumo deadlift (lower back)
• pull-ups OR assisted pull-ups OR cable pull-downs (upper back - lats)
• cable low row OR chest-supported row (lats and biceps)
• bent-over reverse fly OR band pull-aparts (upper back - rear delts and traps)
• hammer curls OR concentration curls (biceps)
• face pulls OR dumbbell shrugs (upper back - traps)

DAY 3, "Legs Day" for lower body (quads, hamstrings, glutes, and calves) and abs

• barbell back squat OR goblet squat (quads)
• lunges OR reverse lunges OR step-ups (quads)
• leg curl machine OR leg press with feet high and wide (hamstrings)
• Romanian deadlift OR bridges OR hip thrusters (hamstrings and glutes)
• calf raises OR leg press calf extension (calves)
• weighted crunches OR planks (abs)

How Much Weight Should I Lift?

Here's a post all about that. But in a nutshell, select a weight for each exercise that you can do for 8 to 10 reps. Figuring this out might take up your first three workouts, but that’s okay. Then aim for doing 3 sets of 8 to 10 reps of each exercise. If you succeed at doing 3 sets of 10 on a certain exercise, then you're probably ready to increase the weight for that exercise by 5 to 10% next time.

Don't forget, this program will get you started, but it's not perfect. Over time, be willing to make changes! My favorite website for learning new things about weight training is t-nation.com. Unlike me, those folks have actual degrees in this stuff.

Hope this all helps!

The Friendly Lifter

Let's Talk Basics

 

Weight Training 101

You probably already know that people do weight training to get stronger and make their muscles bigger.  (It’s also a great way to lose fat.)  But how we go about accomplishing that isn’t necessarily obvious, so give me one minute to talk basics.

When you look in the weight room at the gym, you see people making objects move back and forth, so it’s reasonable to assume that’s the primary purpose, but it’s actually not.  The most important thing you need to accomplish in the weight room is to make your muscles tired.  Moving objects back and forth is simply the means to that end, but it’s not the actual point.

Does that seem like splitting hairs?  Honestly, it’s not.  When you understand that you are moving heavy things around in order to tire out your muscles, then you start to think about your muscles more than the weight.  You start to analyze which muscles will benefit from moving this object in this particular way.  And most importantly, you begin to understand that this weight lifting business goes a lot deeper than you may have realized before.

The most important principle of weight training is to do an exercise until your muscle is too tired to do it any more.  Every time you do an exercise, make sure you know which muscle it is intended to train, then do the exercise until that muscle is too tired to continue without resorting to bad form.  That's when you stop and rest.

When to Stop and When to Go

Each time you move the weight, that's called a "rep" (short for "repetition").  When you do a certain number of reps then stop to rest, you've done what's called a "set". Each time you do a set, you should have a certain number of reps that you're trying to achieve. That's your "rep goal". But that goal should be a challenge, so you if you're hitting your rep goal all the time, then the goal is too easy. You should also have in mind a "rep range". For example, if your rep goal is 10 reps, you would probably set your rep range at 8 to 10 reps, meaning that getting to 8 or 9 reps is good, but you should keep trying to get all the way to 10 next time.

Your workout will be more effective if you do 2 or 3 sets of each exercise. So after your first set, rest for about a minute then do another set.  You might do another exercise for that same muscle, depending on what kind of program you're doing. But hopefully at that point, you've made your muscle good and tired.  That's how you signal to your body that it needs to improve your strength and grow the muscle.

Where Are My Gainz?

So you've finished a great workout. Your muscles are bigger and stronger now, right? Wellll, yes and no. When a muscle works hard, it demands plenty of oxygen to help fuel that effort. Your body responds by pumping extra blood to that muscle. You might notice the muscle feels extra full, or extra warm, or maybe even a tiny bit bigger. That's called a "pump", and it really does temporarily make your muscle bigger and fuller. But the pump fades about 15 minutes after your workout. Sorry.

Your muscles don't actually do their growing and strengthening at the gym. They do most of that while you're sleeping. Working out sends signals to your body that those muscles need to grow and repair and get stronger. Since sleep is when your body does most of its healing, that's also when your "gainz" happen. So it's really important to make sure you're getting plenty of sleep as part of your workout program.

Have a great workout, and don't forget, it's okay to ask questions!

The Friendly Lifter

Meet the Friendly Lifter

 If this is the first post of mine you've read, welcome!  And thanks for visiting--it's an honor!

(Note: this was my very first post back in 2019, but due to technical issues I'm re-running it.)

Where I’m Coming From

For the first 40 years of my life, I was the Fat Kid.  I used to be 300 pounds of solid fat.  Over the last 6 years I’ve lost more than 100 pounds of that fat, and significantly improved my strength and muscle.  I'm also a teacher by trade, and I really like to help people learn stuff.  Over the years, I have seen many beginners have the same questions, and see them face the same frustrations as lots and lots of other people.  I'd like to give them a kind, non-judgmental push in the right direction.

I’m NOT here to sell you something, or get you to sign up for something, or convince you that if you do what I tell you, you’ll melt away that fat or build yourself into a god or goddess.  Instead, I’m here to give you a bit of tough love and a lot of encouraging hugs.  If you’re a guy they can be fist bumps, I’m okay with that too.

The Tough Love Part

The sad truth is, getting fit is hard—especially at first.  And in this day and age where you can learn endless amounts of information with a few clicks of the keyboard, a teaspoon of helpful information is typically buried in a truckload of worthless crap.  That’s mostly because people want your money.  They will tell you literally anything to get your money, and they know exactly what you want to hear.  Just buy the magazine or membership or bizarre machine and you will look like these models in no time!

They.  Are.  Lying.

Lasting fitness never works that way, ever.  Ever.  Certainly, it’s possible to lose a large amount of fat or gain a lot of muscle in a short period of time, but I guarantee it will be insanely difficult, expensive, and/or fraught with dangers to your overall health.  And after all that, your body will naturally try to reverse such drastic changes to its status quo, meaning that keeping that fat off or that muscle on will require a great deal more difficulty, and probably more expense and risk.  (The one exception here might be weight loss surgery, although I would say “expensive” still applies, and the entire process does still take time.)
It is absolutely normal to dream of having a lean, athletic body instantly.  Just about everyone does.  But please don’t throw your money at the shysters.  And please don’t set yourself up for disappointment.

You can’t buy a First-Class ticket for this journey.  This is going to take both time and effort.  If you can accept that, you’re ready for the encouragement.

The Right Track

Will Rogers said, “Even if you’re on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there.”  Lots of us have started down the right track, then stalled.  Then a train came and shoved us back to where we started, or worse.  Here’s the one bit of advice I’d like to offer that you might not have heard before: There’s more than one track.

Don’t get me wrong, they all go uphill, so it’s going to take effort.  But there are hundreds of tracks that lead to fitness, and for you, some of them will be better choices than others.  My wish for you is that you find a track that doesn’t just lead to fitness, but also takes you on a journey you’ll enjoy.

In school, my P.E. teachers, were mostly well-meaning and honestly wanted to see me be healthy and fit.  But they only introduced me to team sports (I choke under pressure), running around tracks (boring and miserable for an asthma sufferer), and calisthenics (gotta love jumping up and down with all that fat on your frame).  I grew up believing that I was just not an athletic person, and that I was destined to be fat all my life.

It wasn’t until decades later that I discovered my right track: weight training.  It was a perfect fit for my temperament because there’s no pressure to score one for the team, and there’s no split-second decisions—everything is carefully planned out.  I’m not competitive against others, but I love the feeling of victory when I’m able to lift more repetitions or more weight than I did last week.  And I love that for the time I’m in the weight room, I can focus on the weights and nothing else.  My point isn’t that you must try weight training; it’s that I had never thought of myself as a weight lifter.  The best track to fitness for you might go in a direction you totally didn’t expect, so consider all the possibilities.

So keep your mind open to the possibilities!  In my next post, I'll talk about ways to explore those possibilities.

Best wishes,
The Friendly Lifter

Eeeeek!! Halloween!

 Here Come the Holidays

Ah, The Holidays. Here in the U.S. that means massive amounts of candy are being shoved in front of our faces from the beginning of August (for the Pre-Pre-Halloween Season) all the way through the end of April (with the After-Easter clearance sales). How on earth is a person supposed to keep eating healthy in the midst of all that? I've got some ideas that might help.

Be a Picky Shopper

When it's time to buy Halloween candy for the little (and big) ghosts and ghouls, buy only candy that is your least favorite. I love chocolate but hate those sour candies that make your face pucker up like a dried apple. So I fill my candy bowl with those. That leaves very little temptation to sneak a few into my mouth.

Don't Be Stingy

You know how sometimes you get teenagers or even adults asking for candy on Halloween night? Don't resent them, just relax, laugh, and give them some candy. It's all supposed to be fun, isn't it? Besides, better that they eat the sugar than you. Make a concerted effort not to have any leftover candy when the night is done.

But...I...Really Want Some Candy...

I know. There, there. Have some candy if you really need to. 

But make it a small treat, not an epic binge. If you live with someone who can help you out, get them to hide the candy from you until Halloween night, and ask them to dole out a reasonable serving to you when you really feel like you need a treat. And DON'T GO LOOKING FOR THEIR HIDING PLACE! A couple pieces of candy aren't going to totally ruin your fitness goals, but do resist as much as you can stand to.

Sabotage Everyone Else's Diet

Say you really tried to get rid of all the candy, but you still had leftovers. Or maybe some well-meaning soul gave you a bag full of candy as a nice gesture. Do you have to eat it? No.

If your job has a break room or similar place, set your candy out there. It'll probably be gone by the end of the day. Or, donate the candy to a food bank, if they can accept it. Or give it to neighbors, friends, or relatives. I'm sure you can find somebody who will make the sacrifice of eating that candy for you. People are nice that way.

Just know that hard candies aren't safe for everyone, such as toddlers. Elderly people or needy people without dental insurance may not have strong enough teeth. You might just have to take a deep breath and throw it away.

Facing the candy can be scarier than the darkest haunted house, but you can do it!

Be brave!

The Friendly Lifter

How Much Weight?

 Why Won’t Anyone Tell Me How Much Weight to Lift?

Any good lifting program you find on the internet or in a book will likely list exercises, sets, reps, rest periods, and days per week, but will say nothing about how much weight to use.  That’s because it’s your job to figure out the weight.  And it’s not that hard, but it’s going to take some trial and error.  Plan on your first week of a new exercise or program to be mostly about figuring your weights out.  After that, you can put the pedal to the metal.

Here’s How

Get ready to do your first exercise.  If you’ve never done it before, practice the form with the lightest weight possible.  Once you’ve got the form down, choose a weight that seems reasonable to you.  DON’T LOOK AT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE ARE LIFTING, just be conservative.  

Let’s say you’re going to be lifting the weight for 10 reps--that’s a good number, if you’re not sure.  If you can lift that weight 10 times like it’s nothing: rest, add 10 to 20% to the weight, and try 10 more reps.  If you lifted it pretty well for 10 times, but it wasn’t a total cakewalk: rest, add 5 to 10% to the weight, and try 10 more reps.  If you got to 10 reps just barely, or could only do 8 or 9 reps, the weight you’ve got is probably a good one to use for future workouts.  Write that number down!  If you only made it to 4 or 5 reps: rest, decrease the weight by 10 to 20% or more, and try again.

Keep in mind that form matters here.  Lots of exercises can be done with much more weight if you do them with terrible form.  Don’t go there.

Keep repeating this process until you find your working weight for that exercise.  Then repeat the process for other exercises.  This process might require your entire workout time; if so, that’s fine, you are working your muscles, after all.  If you’ve got plenty of time left over, try a set or two more of each exercise before you go home.

What's a 1RM?

You may hear or read stuff that includes the phrase “1-rep max” or just the abbreviation “1RM”.  Often, it will be something like “Use 80% of your 1RM for this exercise”.  Your 1-rep max is how much you can lift exactly once; the absolute maximum amount your body can move.  I strongly recommend you don’t actually test your 1-rep max on any exercise without a trainer’s assistance, because when you’re approaching the maximum amount of weight your body can handle, accidents and injuries can happen.

Instead, test your 3-rep, 5-rep, or 8-rep max and use a 1RM calculator (they’re all over the internet) to estimate your 1RM.  Different calculators will give slightly different results, but they’ll pretty much all be close enough.  This is the one I use: 1RM Calculator

Sorry I Couldn't Just Tell You the Answers!

When you start lifting, or start a new program, plan on your first workout(s) to be mostly experimenting to find the right weights. It might seem kind of loosy-goosy or inconvenient, but you might also start to enjoy this process. Certainly, there's no pressure to set any world records here!

Go get started!

The Friendly Lifter

Better Than Sit-Ups

Sit-ups suck. Sorry, they just do. I mean, I love to exercise, and even I hate them! Fortunately, I have another option for strengthening your abs, and you can do them at home, so no excuses!

Weighted Crunches

You're going to need a book or pillow or some other object. It's better for now if the object isn't very heavy, but we're going to call it a "weight" anyway. 

Lie flat on your back on the floor. Bend your knees and plant your feet flat on the floor. Hold the weight in both hands. Extend your arms so you're holding the weight nice and high above your chest. Now you're ready to get started.

Pretend you're shoving that weight straight up into the ceiling. As you do, your head and shoulders should come up off the floor. Now relax back down so you're in your starting position again. You've just done one repetition, or "rep". Notice that you're not trying to bring your chin closer to your knees like a sit-up, and you're not curling your upper body like a traditional crunch. In the video you can see the weight travels in a slightly curved path, but focus just on moving it up and down.

I want you to do as many reps in a row as you can. Try for 10 or 12 or 15. It's okay if you can't do 15, that's just a goal. (Did you do a zillion? Good for you! Stay tuned, I have a bigger challenge for you later on.) Once you can't do any more reps, relax for a bit. Set your weight down or hold it on top of your chest, whatever's comfortable. Catch your breath for about 60 seconds. You just did what's called a "set" of reps.

Do three sets, resting about a minute after each one. That's it. Now go for a walk or lift some weights or dance with your kids.

Why Are These Better?

Well, I'm not a personal trainer, I'm just a crazy guy who likes to do this stuff. But I've read a bit about weighted crunches and several different sources recommend them over sit-ups because they're easier on the spine and lower back muscles. And some have said they're better than traditional crunches because it's easier to get the form right and not accidentally screw up your back. I just know my body is much happier after I've done three sets of these.

I'm Ready for Something Harder. What Now?

There are several ways to add to the challenge. Pick any ONE of these each time you're ready for more:

1. Do more reps per set. For example, 3 sets of 20 repetitions.
2. Do more sets. Think you could do 5 sets of 15 reps? Go for it!
3. Hold a heavier weight. Try a sack of rice or a pair of dumbbells or your kid. Fun, right?
4. Exhale as forcefully as you can each time you do a rep. Imagine you're blowing that weight right up to the ceiling. If you watched the video, this is why I sound like a spouting whale. You'd be surprised how hard the exercise gets when you do this!
5. On each rep, hold your body in the "up" position briefly before lowering yourself back down. The longer you pause up there, the bigger the challenge.

Start out easy, but keep challenging yourself a little more each week. Don't try these some day, try them now!

Really, now!

-The Friendly Lifter

Mind Games 2: Trash Talk and More

 Welcome back!  Here are more mind games you can play to trick yourself into eating healthier!

Also, don't miss

Mind Games 1 (more on diet)

Mind Games 3 (exercising) 

Mind Games 4 (motivation)

Accentuate the Negative

Every time you eat something you shouldn’t and you have any kind of negative feeling, cling to that memory and recall it any time you’re confronted with that food in the future.  Ate a bunch of candy and didn’t really enjoy it?  Remember that.  Ate a large order of french fries and they sat in your stomach like lead?  Remember that!  Ate a muffin instead of a healthier breakfast and you were already hungry by 9:30 a.m.?  REMEMBER THAT!

Stop repeating history.  And whenever possible, have a healthier alternative food nearby that you can turn to when you have to fight temptation.  I keep a stack of protein bars (don't buy ones with lots of sugar) or a jar of peanut butter in my desk drawer at work.  (Yes, peanut butter!  A spoonful of straight up peanut butter can be very satisfying.  It even helps my sweet tooth, believe it or not.)  Protein bars and peanut butter can also make you fat if you eat them like a maniac, but they make good alternatives if eaten in reasonable portions.

Trash Talk

This is going to sound crazy.  But it totally works for me and I’ve heard from other people who also said it worked for them.  Trash-talk the junk food.  Not like, literally say rude things out loud, but inside your head, pretend that the junk food wants you to eat it.  Tell it you don’t need it.  Laugh in its face.  Call it stupid names.  Let your inner diva loose.  Walk right by and flip it off.  Treat it like you wish you could treat your boss or your ex.  Exercise all the cruelty in your soul.

For example: “Psssh, donut?  No, I don’t think so.  The last time I ate a donut I was sleepy for the rest of the day, and I didn’t even LIKE it that much.  Damn thing was stale!  You can just stay in that box and beg for someone else to eat you, because there’s no way I’m touching you.  Yeah, that’s right, cry, stupid donut, because you’re pathetic.”

You might be surprised just how emotionally satisfying this can be.  Plus, by the time you’ve gotten through your sassy little speech, you’ve hopefully stalled through the moment of danger and you can think more rationally about why you don’t need that food.

Don’t Trash Talk Yourself, Though

Well...some people actually tell me this works for them, hating themselves every time they fall off the wagon and calling themselves “Fatty” every time they look in the mirror.  But I think most people are more likely to give up altogether once they start with the negative self-talk.  It’s just too easy to go from “I’m bad because I failed” to “I’m bad, so why bother?”.  Don’t go there.

Don’t wallow in guilt if you cheat and eat something you know you shouldn’t, but do resolve to get back on the horse.  Sugar tends to be addictive, so your body will crave it after you’ve had some.  Be prepared for that: keep the healthy alternatives in easy reach and redouble your efforts to take the emotional feelings out of your food choices.  If you can, throw away the tempting foods while you’re still determined.

See Yourself as a Healthy Eater

Don’t try to eat healthy.  Be a Healthy Eater.   Be the kind of person who is okay with a banana for dessert.  Be the kind of person who preps their lunches in advance, so you don’t have to worry about what you’re eating.  Be the kind of person who makes special requests at the restaurant.  You might think it’s impossible, but you’re trying to change yourself physically, and that’s going to take at least a little bit of mental change too.

Think you’ve been an unhealthy eater for too long to change how you see yourself?  Screw that, you don’t have to be chained to who you used to be.

Think other people will scoff at your turnaround?  Yep, probably.  Screw them, they don’t own you.  If they sneer, remember that’s usually the sign of a person who knows they should be doing better themselves, and their guilt causes them to take pot shots.

Think last night’s binge means you lose your Healthy Eater credential?  Screw that!  Don’t wallow, don’t send yourself hate mail, just resolve to settle for a small treat next time, and go grill some chicken breasts.

But...the Food at the Office...

Yes, I know it's free.  If that fact hypnotizes you into picking up something you shouldn't eat, wake up before it goes in your mouth, sneak over to the trash can, and throw it away.  Just because it's free doesn't mean you have to eat it.

Surprise Yourself

You might be surprised that you can make this work, but I won’t be.  I know you can do this nutrition thing.  It might take work, but you’re worth the effort.  Now go out there and talk yourself into being a Healthy Eater!

Best wishes,
The Friendly Lifter


P.S. - If you have a Costco store in your area, I'd like to recommend their Kirkland (store brand) protein bars.  They are pretty yummy and have a much better protein-to-sugar ratio than any other bar I've found.  Costco also has great deals on protein powder--I swear, my savings on protein powder alone pay for my annual membership.

Mind Games 1: Food, Glorious Food

No, Seriously, It Worked for Me!

Okay, I know some percentage of you all are going to read a few sentences here and instantly reject it as utter, ridiculous nonsense.  Others will say, “That’s all very well, but it would never work for me.”  And I’ve come to terms with that, but my response is: Just try it.  Literally no one else has to know what you’re doing, so there’s no risk if it doesn’t work.

What I’m talking about is, playing mind games with yourself.  When I started to eat more healthily and visit the gym on a daily basis, one thing that helped immensely was engaging in the many varieties of mental gymnastics you will see below and in the next few posts.  Yes, of course I knew I was doing it, as I was doing it.  I just shoved that particular awareness aside and did it anyway.  And maybe these tricks worked because I am more imaginative (or unstable!) than other people.  But really, I’d love for you to take at least one of these ideas and adapt it for your own purposes.  There’s literally no risk, so just try it!

Stall Through the Moment of Danger

Often, when I want a food I shouldn’t eat, it’s because I just saw that food and had an instantaneous, impulsive reaction to reach out, pick it up, and gobble it down.  If you can resist temptation for just a little bit of time, you will likely reach a moment when you can think more rationally about what you’re doing.  Stall for time.

Before you touch the food, build in your mind a quick sketch of what is in it.  Is there likely to be a lot of sugar?  Fat?  Sodium?  Would it have more protein, or more carbs?  How much do you want to bet that it has scary-sounding preservatives in it?  Now (if they're available) look at the Nutrition Facts and see if your guesses were correct.  Look at the ingredients list.  Do you recognize ANYTHING in there?  Think about it as unemotionally as possible, because it’s emotions that are making you want that food.

If you’re still tempted, tell yourself that MAYBE you can have SOME of the food, but you have to wait 60 seconds.  Literally count the seconds in your head.  Or tell yourself you can have just a couple bites, but only after you do some other task.  Hopefully, you can stall long enough that you are making a more rational choice about whether to eat the food or not, and if so, how much.  Remember, eating only a couple bites of something bad instead of the whole thing is a better choice, though no bites at all is even better.

Beware of Tag-Alongs

I’m not talking about the peanut butter Girl Scout cookies (though you should beware of those too).  I’m talking about side dishes that you don’t need or want.  I may be about to rock your world here, but...burgers don’t actually HAVE to have fries on the side.  Sandwiches can be consumed without chips.  Ribs can be enjoyed without potato salad.  I discovered something about myself when I had this epiphany: I kinda don’t like french fries.  It had been so deeply ingrained in my mind that you have to have fries with your burger that I spent much of my life eating fries I didn’t even enjoy.

Do you absolutely have to have chips with your lunch, or are you eating them because you always have chips with your lunch?  Do you really want the beans at your company barbecue, or are you putting them on your plate because that’s what you do at a barbecue?  If you feel like you have to take them so you don't offend your boss who is irrationally proud of his baked bean recipe, put a little on your plate, say hi to the boss so he sees the beans, then take great pride that you're secretly going to throw them away.

Think really hard about the side dishes you eat, and don’t feel obligated to eat something you only kinda want.

Remove the Moments of Weakness

The human brain gets much more emotional and impulsive when it’s hungry.  There are two ways you can try to combat this unfortunate fact of psychology: don’t get hungry*, and make choices in advance.

Eat frequent meals.  If you have a good breakfast and a healthy snack at mid-morning and another in the afternoon, you will be less likely to desperately crave junk food for lunch and dinner.  Yes, they’re calories, but they’re good calories and they’re worth consuming.  Don’t let yourself get to the point where you’re staring into the fridge, ready to shove any old thing that doesn’t move into your mouth.  Not that I’VE ever done that, of course.

If you often eat lunch at a restaurant, find a healthy but enjoyable meal that can be your “usual”.  Then, when it’s time to order, always order that meal.  It will become habit, and soon you will be ordering that meal before you’ve even had a chance to think whether you want the grilled bacon-cheese-and-donut sandwich.  The employees may even start to remember your order, which is even better.

If you eat a lunch from home or eat at home every day, prep your meals on Sunday night and stack them in the fridge, ready to grab and go.  I grill chicken breasts and roast vegetables, then portion them into five reusable containers.  This meal is delicious warm or cold.

*There is a case to be made for fasting as a weight loss tool.  I would especially encourage you to look into "intermittent fasting" which involves not eating for a specific period of time, which is not the same thing as starving yourself.  It's not something I've ever tried, but I've read lots of evidence in its favor.

Mental Changes Lead to Physical Changes

You can change how you think about food, but you have to let it happen, and it takes effort.  You'll have to allow that change to happen, though.  Don't just decide you can't do it!  I'll have some more mind games for you to try in my next post, so stay tuned!

Best wishes,
The Friendly Lifter 

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Mind Games 3 (exercise) 

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